The purpose of a What’s Your Upset session is to mediate conflict through writing, in order to gain understanding about recurring upsets and to learn the skills of communicating-to-be-understood and listening-to-understand.

(And ‘writing’ can be handwriting, keyboarding, speech-to-text, or I am glad to transcribe.)

By writing the specific scene of an upset, participants will gain clarity and confidence through discovering their perspective, and also through having their perspective be reflected and understood.

And through developing one’s perspective, participants will discover their values—what’s meaningful and necessary to them in their life.

From what I’ve noticed, anchoring to values can keep a person more grounded, more inspired, less reactive and less likely to be swept away by life’s circumstances.

Being clear about one’s perspective and values can also open up spaces for the kind of communication that creates more understanding and more fulfilling connections.

When two people do this work together, they get to understand and respect each other’s perspective on a deeper level, and because of this, they may find it easier to be more empathetic and supportive of each other in the moments of life.

Who is this workshop for?

For couples in conflict, for parents and kids in conflict, and also for individuals of all ages who might benefit from gaining a deeper understanding of why they’re upset.

The workshop is also for individuals who want to work on discovering their personal constitution so that their life can be more of a match for who they feel they are in the privacy of their minds.

How it works:

Participants pick an upset.

They write the scene of what happened in detail. (I am able to assist with this part.)

Participants then share the scene and reflect on it.

Next, a question is asked: Does this upset remind you of any other upset from the past?

Next, participants write the scene of what happened in the upset from the past.

Participants then share the scene and reflect on it.

Next—participants pick an upset—either the one that happened recently, or the one from the past—but this time, they write what they would WISH would have happened.

By doing this work, participants discover that their needs, wants, and perspective are not only valid, but valuable. And one goal of the workshop is for participants to begin to experience themselves as a contribution—to themselves and also to others.

And for those doing the work with another person, the goal is also for both participants to gain enough insight about each other, that it evolves into genuine empathy.

At this point, participants will write their personal constitution, something concise about the values they’ve chosen, in order to keep themselves anchored to what’s most meaningful to them in their lives, and also to help keep them from getting reactive and swept away by the circumstances of life.

If you’re interested, please contact me to set up a session.

I am currently offering this workshop at no-cost.

**And though the topic of this workshop is to write about upsets and to create or deepen one’s own perspective, I am not a therapist. I have an MFA in creative writing and I love to use writing as a tool to help deepen my awareness of myself and others, and I love to support other people who are interested in doing the same.

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